I've Lost Independence

Jul 04, 2024

I Am An Inconvenience 

 

I have lost my independence. And here it is the 4th!  I hope you are going to the beach or a block party!   It’s been humbling to ask folks to open my water bottle.  Actually I’ve learned to do it between my legs but it’s a little uncouth in public!  I do have to ask folks to tie my tennis shoes.  It’s so weird to be able to write a book, give a TedX, and not be able to cut an onion.  I know it’s temporary, but how bizarre this is!

 

! am an inconvenience.  I think for the first time in my life.  It is giving me such compassion.  I am thanking folks more, grateful more, humbler more, and seeing how kind people are.  Yes, yes, I know people can get edgy, but most people are really gracious when it takes me 2 minutes to pull out my credit card or sign my name.  And if they are edgy I just say:

 

“I know!  Aren’t I slow?  I am so very sorry.  I wish I weren’t an inconvenience.   It’s really hard one handed.  Thank you for your kindness.”  And almost always, the edge goes away.

 

And if you ask me what I miss the most, it  is for sure, my independence, being able to move, go, do all I the things I love.  I miss the beach, swimming, kayaking, bike riding, putting my hair in a ponytail, dancing, sunsets, and real real tight hugs.  It feels different with a full arm cast.

 

I have learned a ton of one handed tricks.  So, if you ever get an arm cast, reach out as I can help you open a beer, ziplocks, “cut” cantaloupe, and even get contacts out.  All new crazy tricks.  

 

I hope for you today you find ways to feel grateful for all the independence you have.  I know it would be easier if I wasn’t alone.  And that has shown me even more so how important compassion and connection is in a relationship and with self.  Thank God my book was finished before my accident.  I hope you read it and share with me how it blesses you.

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Happy Independence Day!